FUTA

Though I changed my Facebook profile picture to support FUTA, I believe that changing pictures won't change the system but changing minds would do. 

Its funny how some people support this cause while having other political motives. I don’t think that they really want to support the education system of this country other than achieving their benefits. FUTA stands for a worthy cause and I hope their actions will open eyes of people who truly want to support for a better education system of this country. 

This is not a fight which can be won over night. Even if it could win, will it make a huge difference in a short time? I don't think so. FUTA demands the government to clearly state the policy on statefunded education. This is the key for a better future if it works properly. We need to have a proper mechanism to influence the younger generation of this country to change in a positive way. Change in a way that they will not do the same mistakes which we have done. 

Can the government education system help to do that? Yes. 

Will any government try to do this? I don’t think so.

Compromising to be happy?

For some people there comes a point in their lives where they have to choose one between happiness and money. Generally what happens is that they will select one and then regret their entire life thinking about the other. 

As a result they end up being miserable and having neither happiness or money in their lives. Ideally what should happen is that we either should find happiness in what brings us money or earn money by doing what makes us happy. In order to do that, one might has to compromise on the level of expectation. Now the real question is, are we really ready to compromise on our expectations? If yes, you are a winner. If not the second question is how miserable do you wanna be in life?

When I posted this on my FB, Buddhi ayya commented on that. 
"Compromise on the level of expectations.... like how happy you want to be or how much money you want to have? Then I think I would rather try to be very happy with having enough money :) So that means I have to find other means (other than money) to bring me more happiness, don't I?" 

My reply to that was, 

"That's a choice you made. For some of us, making that choice is a long hard process. There we might have to reword our definitions about happiness and financial success and work towards them. So its kind of compromising on our initial expectations and settling to a common ground."

He had more to say..

"I was having almost the same discussion with some other friends... and its very interesting. Like Bhanuka said it really depends on the person. Some of us care more about being spiritual for example... so as long as you feel good about yourself and happy, it is a good way to go. And when you do that, I think mostly you will not feel like making a compromise as all. That's how I feel."

Like he correctly said, when you are happy with your way, you won't feel that you are making any compromise. That is simply because the feeling of compromising indirectly tells you that you are not happy at that moment about that particular decision. When you are happy about your way there are no compromises about happiness at all. In other words, one might feel like compromising on a particular decision at a given time but with time, he will no longer see it as a compromise after he found his happiness along that decision he made. 

It's TIME to TALK

Studies show that two out of three women in Nicaragua report physical abuse by their husband or partner, and one of three children have been sexually or physically abused. It's important to recognize that boys and young men also suffer from violence.

The situation is not much different in Sri Lanka as well. It's important to "talk" about these things with an open mind rather than avoiding. Each one of us is responsible for any sort of child abuse if we do not talk about them. We should "talk" to our children about this, we should talk to each other and create a voice about it. No point of boasting about our proud nations and cultures and avoid talking about all the sensitive (or sexual) issues with our children because how can we ask them to avoid or be cautious about something which they have never heard of? 

This thought came after watching Watch Carlo's Story video published by Men Care. Men Care – A Global Fatherhood Campaign – is coordinated by Promundo, Sonke and the MenEngage Alliance, as an effort to promote men’s involvement as fathers and as caregivers. It seeks to provide support materials, messages, policy recommendations and research to encourage local MenEngage partners, NGOs, women’s rights organizations, governments and UN partners to implement campaign activities in their settings.